“The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behaviour. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behaviour.”
- Andy Smithson
These are my very favorite resources for gentle + respectful parenting. If you’re not familiar with that concept, it’s a whole lot about meeting our children as whole + worthy people, learning what our triggers are as parents, healing our wounds so that we don’t wound our children and re-learn about how to regulate our own emotions so that we can be supportive to our children. Addressing these things will encourage increasing connection, trust and relational influence rather than costing us just that as coeacive influence decreases over time.
Caring for ourselves, is caring for our babies <3
This is a free resource library with my top resources to grow in parenthood as mothers and fathers of important little people.
You know you’re breaking generational bad cycles when you:
You validate your kids emotions <3 Even when you think that their behaviour is wrong. You validate their feelings, help them calm down and then guide them toward more appropriate behaviour.
You think that being a parent is not just raising kids - you’ve shifted your mind thinking that you have to raise yourself and heal from coping methods that you were forced to have to survice your childhood.
You don’t use violence or threats or screaming to control your kids,
You teach them integrity, you don’t force your kids on anyone (even yourself included). Allow them to say no. Let them see an adult rescpecfully take a no.
Everything your want your children to be, do that yourself. Be loving. Take care of your health. Make good food. Say beautiful thinks. Say I’m sorry and I love you and I was wrong.
You are letting your home be a center of safety, grace, love and patience. A place where wounds can heal and immature children & teenagers can move into maturity. Culture gives us permission to compromise, but we have an option to train ourselves so that we can be who we really want to be. Keep going, friend. Make that hard work count.
You’re finding little things that calm you down when you wanna blow up on your kids such as aromatherapy. Because, you’re overtouched and overwhelmed and all you need is a break in sensory overload.